Significance vs. Success
- Instead of achieving "things" for self (success), make an eternal impact (significance).
- Leaving a legacy – a mentoring relationship, a disciple of Christ, raising a child, estate planning
(success leaves this world with you while significance/legacy remains after you leave this world), etc.
- Vulnerability/Communication ("counseling" topics) – conflict, confessing, confrontation,
mentoring. I have some counseling background I could share.
- Setting up opportunities for men to develop discipleship relationships: large topical gatherings,
smaller groups of men within those gatherings, smaller groups having breakfast, two guys having breakfast,
retreats (spring and fall with speaker/topic combined with small group, worship, and some recreational time), etc.
- Cannot be structured, but must be allowed to develop overtime. The Men's Ministry could support and encourage.
- Jamie Johnson’s talk outline for the 2006 Men's Retreat: "Wounds".
- The 234 Model
Marriage with other ministries
- Ball Game with sons, etc.
- A marriage retreat.
- Doing what you are currently doing: helping the children's ministries, etc.
- Service projects.
- Not Even a Hint : Guarding Your Heart Against Lust by Joshua Harris (recommended by Kevin Conrow)
Lust can destroy our relationships and our lives. This book is for those struggling with lust or just facing
temptations of lust. The author looks at how one can fight back against lust.
- When Good Men Are Tempted by Bill Perkins (recommended by Jamie Johnson)
This book shows men how to master lust, achieve the holiness by following a plan for sexual integrity to achieve
a purity in marriage, family, and revitalize their walks with God while strengthening relationships with their
brothers in Christ.
- Every Man's Battle : Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time by Stephen Arterburn,
et. al. (recommended by John Kuebler)
This book confronts the enemy of every man: lust. It offers practical principles for sexual purity, which involves
courage, commitment, and self-discipline.
- Eternal Impact: Investing in the Lives of Men by Phil Downer with Chip MacGregor (recommended by Jamie Johnson)
This book discusses leaving a legacy, which is built through discipling and mentoring, helping men discover Jesus
Christ's role in marriage, fathering and relationships, and then become effective in fulfilling His command to make
disciples (true significance as opposed to success).
- The Man in the Mirror: Solving the 24 Problems Men Face by Patrick Morley (recommended by Jamie Johnson)
This book discusses issues pertinent to men: identities, relationships, finances, time, temperament, and integrity.
It then offers making a lasting change.
- Also see Man in the Mirror Men's Ministries
- Men's Fraternity: The Quest for Authentic Manhood by Dr. Robert M. Lewis (recommended by Jamie Johnson)
In a culture that has become increasingly confusing for men, it is necessary for men to learn how to be men, to
develop community with one another, and to hold one another accountable as brothers in Christ, as husbands,
as sons, and as fathers.
- The Discipline of Grace by Jerry Bridges (recommended by Jamie Johnson)
This book discusses the pursuit of holiness, considering the role of God's grace in this pursuit. The author
discusses the discernment of grace and practicing disciplines of commitment, conviction, choices, watching, and
- Experiencing Christ Within: Passionately Embracing God's Provisions for Supernatural Living by Dwight Edwards
(recommended by Jamie Johnson)
The Christian life can be new every day. This book teaches how to release the spiritual resources within every
believer: purity, identity, motivations, and power in Jesus Christ to fulfill the purposes to which God has called
- The Purpose Drive Life by Rick Warren (recommended by Jamie Johnson)
God planned everything and everyone, including your divine purpose, according to His master plan. This book
urges purposeful devotion to God and living the God-ordained purposes of worship, community, discipleship,
ministry and evangelism, and in doing so effectively living out God's purpose for your life.
- Follow Me! Manual Gospel Discipleship Series by Masterworks (recommended by Alvin Chao)
This book discusses 15 character qualities (teachability, selflessness, trustworthiness, flexibility, intensity,
accountability, humility, courage, alertness, compassion, dependency, servanthood, integrity, transparency, and
contentment) Jesus focused on in dealing with His disciples, using the Gospel of Luke as a reference. The 15
character qualities discussed fall under Christian Character, Christian Maturity, and Christian Lifestyle.
- Wild at Heart: Discovering the Secret of a Man's Soul by John Eldredge (recommended by Jim Blair)
Men are made in the image of God and need to reexamine who God is to recover their "wild" hearts and return
to authentic masculinity. The author gives women a look inside the true heart of men while inviting men to be
what God designed them to be.
- Also see Wild at Heart.
- A Call to Spiritual Reformation by D. A. Carson (recommended by John Kuebler)
- "This book is a selective primer on biblical praying, examining the prayers of Paul. Each chapter
studies a particular prayer from his letters, exploring what Paul prays for and why" (quoted from David C. Hoffner
of Cedar Lake, Indiana (link).
- Holiness by Grace by Bryan Chapell (recommended by John Kuebler)
- A deep look at grace and how it drive holiness, which comes by the grace of God. Many Christians
consider grace in salvation, but grace produces the holiness that characterizes the Christian life.
- The Case for Faith by Lee Strobel (recommended by John Kuebler)
"Using the dramatic scenario of an investigative journalist pursuing his story and leads, Lee Strobel uses his
experience as a reporter for the Chicago Tribune to interview experts about the evidence for Christ from the fields
of science, philosophy, and history" (quoted from http://www.zondervanchurchsource.com/product.asp?ISBN=0310226465).
- Reflecting the Character of Christ by Les Carter (recommended by John Kuebler)
Midwest Book Review: (quote source).
"Reflecting the Character of Christ: His Kindness, His Confidence, His Grace blends the gospel stories
with psychological knowledge to show how meditating on Jesus' character traits can help anyone become a better,
more whole person. Dr. Les Carter shows how Christ can be the pattern for personal growth and wholeness. He
explores many of the dominant personality traits found in the life of Christ (empathy, respect , confidence,
truth, grace, humility) and explains how that quality can be incorporated into readers' lifestyles. Each chapter
describes a scene where Jesus interacts with others, giving insight into how readers can become like Him in their
- War of Words by Paul David Tripp (recommended by John Kuebler)
"This book examines the WHY behind what you say (arguments, sarcasm, etc). Paul Tripp encourages you to
really examine your heart and compare it to God's picture of what your heart should look like since everything
that comes out of your mouth originates in your heart"
Other Amazon link: War of Words: Getting to the Heart of Your Communication Struggles (Resources for Changing Lives)
- Uneasy Manhood: The Quest for Self-Understanding by Robert Hicks (recommended by John Kuebler)
- No synopsis available.
- The Green Letters by Miles J. Stanford (recommended by Jamie Johnson)
This book emphasizes maturing in Christian living with the theme "Not I, but Christ." It discusses the following: faith, time, acceptance, purpose, preparation, complete in Him, appropriation, identification, consecration, self, self-denial, the cross, discipleship, process of discipleship, rest, help, cultivation, and continuance.
- Why You Can't Stay Silent by Tom Minnery
Should Christians withdraw from societal involvement and put their efforts solely
into building up the church? Some leading evangelicals have suggested as much.
Tom Minnery opposes that view. In Why You Can't Stay Silent,
the author challenges Christians to engage themselves in the culture and use their
God-given gifts to be positive influencers in an increasingly post-Christian world.
Includes appendixes on how Christian can become involved.
- Leading with a Limp: Turning Your Struggles into Strengths by Dan B. Allender
Allender, a powerful writer, has a speaking style that makes him sound loving, fatherly, and genuinely interested in helping. In a dramatic voice he says the best leaders are people who accept their imperfections and learn from their mistakes. He shares his shortcomings as a church and educational leader, as an idealist, and as a follower of Christ. Having started and managed a large educational institution, he still sounds humble and willing to learn, refreshing traits in someone with his credentials. He is a sophisticated thinker, and his distinctive and respectful way of speaking about power is captivating as he provides many insights on the human flaws of pride, arrogance, ambition, narcissism, and cowardice.
T.W. © AudioFile 2007, Portland, Maine-- Copyright © AudioFile, Portland, Maine
--This text refers to the Audio CD edition.
- Man to Man: Chuck Swindoll Selects His Most Significant Writings for Men by Dr. Charles R. Swindoll
"Today men hear dozens of conflicting voices telling them how to be men. They're told to go out and beat
the tribal drums or become sensitive New Age followers or dig deep into their psyches to find the macho
warrior within. It all sounds good on paper, but it isn't so helpful when it comes to living authentic
lives. Man to Man talks about real issues, real feelings, real life — connecting with the felt
needs of men right now where they live and work. This down-to-earth collection of insights from Chuck
Swindoll offers practical inspiration for the working man, the single man, the husband, the father,
the son — any man who wants to live well and enjoy life to the fullest."
- David: A Man of Passion & Destiny by Dr. Charles R. Swindoll
In many ways he was a most extraordinary man. Yet in other ways he was a most ordinary man facing an array
of trials. How did David become the national hero of God's chosen people? Why is he the one character in
the Bible described as a "man after God's own heart?" David's life offers hope to all of us. It
shows how devotion doesn't mean perfection-that God loves us in spite of our weaknesses, and can do
extraordinary things through ordinary people. (SOURCE: see above link)
- Don't Waste Your Life by John Piper (Available FREE online in PDF format)
Millions of people are wasting their lives pursuing dreams of happiness that don't rise above a good
marriage, nice kids, a successful career, a nice car, fun vacations, nice friends, a fun retirement,
a painless death, and (hopefully) no hell. John Piper calls this a tragedy in the making. He argues
that we were created for joy. We were designed to have one passion. In this book he describes his own
journey toward this great, single passion. And He pleads that at all costs we pursue our joy in the
crucified Christ, who is the glory of God. The cost is great. But the joy is worth any cost.
- Called to Sexual Integrity by Gary Yagel
"The key to sexual integrity is not behavior modification, but heart transformation
through the power of the gospel. Whether our sexuality is pure or impure is determined by
the condition of our heart. These 10 studeis view our sexuality and the battle for
sexual purity thorugh the lens of the cross and Christ's work in our hearts to redeem our
sexuality for his glory" (from the book's introduction).
- Putting Amazing Back into Grace (Who Does What In Salvation?) by Michael Horton
What does it mean to be "saved by grace"? Many believers are confused and intimidated by the doctrine of salvation, and as a result are missing out on the freedom of God's grace. Michael Horton reminds us of the Reformation's radical view of God and his saving grace, the liberating yet humbling truth that we contribute nothing to our salvation. Putting Amazing Back into Grace clearly lays out the Scriptural basis for this important doctrine and the implications of this message for a vibrant evangelical faith. Horton's accessible treatment of who does what in salvation will inspire a fresh amazement at God's grace.
- Total Forgiveness by R.T. Kendall
"When everything in you wants to hold a grudge, point a finger and remember the pain, God wants you to lay it all aside. You can avoid spiritual quicksand and experience the incredible freedom found in total forgiveness. Is total forgiveness easy? Of course not...but this book will give you a game plan...and the encouragement to cast out areas of unforgiveness that have kept you from enjoying the best God has to offer you."
- Biblical Foundations for Manhood and Womanhood by John Piper
From the above link:
"This book will demonstrate how some views of manhood and womanhood tamper with our understanding of God’s character and why the extremes of male domination and feminism destroy the beauty of our sexual differences—differences that celebrate the excellence of men and women as God created us. "
- True Faced by Bill Thrall, Bruce McNicol, and John Lynch
This book draws a clear distinction between two very different underlying motives: my determination to please God or to trust Him. The resulting difference from these two starting points could not be more profound. One results in a striving that never feels it has done enough to please Him. The other results in a trust that experiences His full pleasure. Our motives as followers of Christ will either keep us in unresolved sin and immaturity or free us into God's astonishing dream for our life." This book is seven chapters long and entertaining while also hard-hitting. There are a few questions at the end of each chapter.
(Thanks to Steve Draper)
For more information, you can also visit http://www.truefaced.com/.
- Respectable Sins by Jerry Bridges
The sub-title is "Confronting the sins we tolerate" and I was drawn to the book because I recognize the way I compromise with what I know to be the right path. Our culture is always leaning on us to let go of the standards of character and truth. Jerry does a great job of encouraging us to see and avoid the "acceptable" sins. He does this with hope and emphasizes the mercy and transforming grace of God.
(Thanks to Steve Draper)
- To Be Told by Dan Allender
From the above link: "Would you willingly overlook clear direction from God that speaks directly to you and where you are in life right now?
God's guidance is near at hand. He is not only your Authority, he is also your Author. As God writes the stories of your life, he uses your past to open up your future.
It is your privilege to listen to your own story so you can live boldly for the sake of the Greatest Story, the good news of Jesus Christ. God reveals himself to you–and to others–through the story he has written in your life. In this insightful and compelling book, Dr. Dan B. Allender shows you how to read the stories of your life. He helps you understand the meaning that God has written into every detail of who you are. As a result, you can share your story with others and listen to their story, revealing unique aspects of God's hand at work.
Starting today, you can find deeper meaning in your story–a story To Be Told. "
- How Now Shall We Live? by Chuck Colson
We now live in a postmodern era where belief in God is sometimes dismissed, mentioned as just one of many
ways, or labeled as ignorant. How do we engage the world with our worldview and renew the culture? Too
often we go along our merry way in our relgious ways and ignore the culture. Colson states that to turn
our backs on the culture "denies God's sovereignty over all of life." Christianity is more than a
personal relationship with Jesus Christ. It is also a worldview that answers life's basic questions and shows
us how we should live as a result of those answers. This book equips Christians to confront false worldviews
and live redemptively in contemporary culture.
- The Art of Manliness
"a blog dedicated to uncovering the lost art of being a man" (from the web site).
- Discipleship Network of America
"A nationwide network of people committed to following Christ's example of winning and discipling others to
become disciple makers" (from the web site).
- Fathers.com (recommended by Frank Doherty)
"Strengthening families by strengthening fathers" (from the web site).
- Got Your Back
Gary Yagel's book about building a band of brothers from his men's ministry Forging Bonds
- Marriage-Growthtrac: Resources for Spiritual Growth and Building Strong Marriages
Tools for transforming your marriage into a strong, Christ-centered marriage.
- The Marriage Bed: Sex and Intimacy for Married Christians
A Christian alternative for married and engaged couples seeking information about marital intimacy. This site shares
the truth of the Bible with biological facts to educate, encourage and reach out to those desiring what God wants
for the marriage relationship.
- Family Life
This site is Campus Crusade for Christ's family ministry. It addresses marriage, parenting, singleness, and life
issues all focused on the purpose of building strong homes.
- Man in the Mirror Men's Ministries
This site offers resources to encourage pastors and men's ministry leaders who are reaching out to men.
- New Man Magazine
"New Man magazine is for men who love God and want more of Him in their lives. Men who realize that there's
more to life than just making a living, providing for their families and going to church once a week" (Quote
- Promise Keepers: Men of Integrity
The focus of Promise Keepers is to introduce men to Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior and Lord and
encouraging their spiritual growth via Seven Promises and their men's conference ministry.
- XXXChurch: Confronting Porn
This ministry offers a confrontational approach against pornography, namely Internet pornography. It offers
resources for accountability, online integrity, and leadership to combat this issue.
- Avoid Pornography!
A page on Jamie Johnson's personal web site that offers resources for avoiding pornography, lust, and sexual
- Singles Ministry
A page on Jamie Johnson's personal web site that offers encouragement for those struggling as adult Christian
singles, including links and recommended reading.
- Steve Farrar: Helping Men Find Their Way (recommended by Jim Blair)
Resources for the needs of Christian men, including home, marriage, children, careers, ethics, and leadership.
Documents Worth Pondering in Developing Men's Ministry
- Integrity In A Sex-Saturated Culture
Keeping Yourselves From Idols: Living as Men of Integrity
.... In A Sex-Saturated Culture
- Sexual Immorality/Idolatry: An Issue of Identity, Relationship, and Worship
Sexualy Immorality and Idolatry? The solution: Identity in Christ, Relationship with Others and God, Worship God. (Notes from a talk by John Kuebler)
- WACMM Conference - March 1, 2008 - my notes
My notes from the Washington Area Coalition of Men's Ministries Conference
"Iron Sharpens Iron" Topics: Crisis, Discipleship,
Fathering, Leading, and Ministry to Men. This site also contains a lot of links related to men's ministry.
- Every Man Ministries
Intentional Men's Ministry: More Muscle for the Mission!
- Family Dads
Helping Dads Prioritize Their Family.
- Raising a Modern-Day Knight
A "study that will give you the opportunity to explore how we can raise our sons into a noble, vibrant masculinity and a healthy manhood propelling your fatherhood to another level." ~from RMDK.com